A Weekend, Not an Afternoon
A mitzvah is a multi-day commission. There is a service, there are family portraits that often involve relatives who have flown in and will not all be in one room again, and there is an evening party with its own production, its own lighting, and its own energy. Each asks for something different from a photographer.
The service is the quietest and most demanding part of it. Coverage there is discreet by necessity, made from the edges of the room, without flash and without movement that would pull attention from the bimah.
The Party and the Portraits
The evening is the opposite: loud, dark, fast, and lit for a dance floor rather than for a camera. It rewards a photographer who knows the beats of the night and is standing in the right place before they happen rather than reacting after.
Between them sit the family portraits, and those are made quickly and deliberately. Thirty years of weddings is largely thirty years of learning how to gather four generations, make the picture, and release them back to the celebration before anyone has started checking a watch.